You know how you hear those stories of young brides who burn the casserole, or forget some essential element of their supper, usually on some special occasion… and we all laugh? When I was little, I often wondered what grandiose mistake I’d make in the first few months of my marriage. Now, I always grin at those stories, but, with all humility, of course, think to myself that it’s funny I’ve never really had a meal that completely and utterly flopped.
Unless, perhaps, you consider that orange chicken I made in the crock pot, served with noodles, to my husband of about a year and my little brother. The one we couldn’t finish because of the mental block–expecting the orange sauce to be cheesy with every bite and getting a burst of citrus instead. But that was more of just a recipe we didn’t care for than a mistake I made. At least, that’s what I’ve told myself.
Is over three years into marriage too late to have a classic I-completely-messed-up-dinner story?
Because I have one.
Earlier today, my friend Elizabeth mentioned that it was a rainy day in her Alaska home, and I found myself longing for the same kind of day here where I sat in a sticky 85 degree house. I turned on the air conditioner and was glad that I’d defrosted pork chops already, because I had in mind a scrumptious apple-y glazed pork chop recipe and it seemed perfect for my mood. Today was also John’s first day of Iraq training, so I thought he’d appreciate to come home to a relaxing evening and the aroma of a tasty meal cooking in the oven. I lit all of our Yankee candles (and the couple cheapy ones mixed in there :smile:) and turned on John’s favorite Southern Gospel music.
Then I started dinner.
Weird thing number one was that when I pulled out what I thought were three medium-thick boneless pork chops, what I found was six extremely thin chops, stacked two tall. Oh. Okay. The package probably said something to that effect, but I missed it apparently. I just altered the way I prepared them slightly, and stuck those chops, with apples, brown sugar, cinnamon and a bit of butter on the baking sheet I’ve used several times before… then put them in the oven.
Then I mixed up some corn bread and decided to make muffins out of it instead of using my square pan, and slid those in alongside the pork chops.
Everything was great. I pulled a load of laundry out of the dryer, straightened up a few things. I even brushed my hair to look my prettiest when that hard working Marine of mine walked in the door. I was feeling pretty good about myself and my accomplishments. I even thought, in actual words!, that I was doing pretty good today, that I’d been pretty productive, and how sweet I’d be for John when he came home. I envisioned us sitting at the dinner table over a nice meal, me telling him of all the things I’d done and seeing him smile at his industrious wife. Because, you know, my love language just happens to be words of affirmation, in case you couldn’t tell. :wink:
Then he came home, gave hugs and kisses to both of us here at home… and asked what he smelled. I told him it was pork chops. He paused and sniffed again, and said it smelled good. Then I walked into the kitchen. And just about choked on the smoke.
Apparently, the oven in this house is not level.
All that butter on the pork chops? (Not that I’m telling you just how much I used, because I wouldn’t want to distort the mental picture of us being health nuts.) It was all on the bottom of the oven. Step one was to open every window in the house before the smoke alarms went off, and step two was to pull out the somewhat, ahem, shallow baking dish, only to discover that it was time to take it out anyway, given the extremely thin cut of the chops. (Probably should have done that in reverse order, but my first concern was having our neighbors think the house was burning down.)
It was okay, though, because at least the chops were still perfectly edible, even if the aroma wasn’t quite what I’d planned and the apples didn’t get to bake as long as usual. Then I pulled out the cornbread.
I don’t know what happened to those corn muffins… but somehow, despite greasing the muffin tins and the fact that I’ve made corn bread and corn bread muffins a half a zillion times… the inside was just barely fully cooked, the tops were perfectly golden, and the sides were, well, black. Perfectly black.
I wasn’t too happy at this point. I even, much to my increased frustration, could feel my eyes smarting and welling up. I was not, NOT going to allow myself to be so silly as to cry over a smokey kitchen and burned corn muffins.
I set about tossing together the salad I’d forgotten in the midst of everything else, and opened my bag of baby carrots to slice for the salad… only to find them slimy and rotting and, in a word, disgusting. This was the bag I bought just a few days ago. I leaned against the counter, where John was beside me, busy holding a corn muffin and pulling off the outer “crust.” I took a deep breath.
So much for my nice relaxing evening and tasty supper.
Then John, after swallowing a bite of the inside of a corn muffin and setting to work on separating the next one from its burned sides, said, “You know, I’ve never liked that part of corn bread muffins anyway. It’s the part you just deal with to get to the good stuff. It’s a whole lot better like this.”
And he was serious.
We sat down to eat now-semi-cooled pork chops, half-crunchy-half-baked apples, corn muffins without the sides on them, salad with no carrots, and a bowl full of peas–hey, at least those turned out okay.
The candles were still burning and the music was still playing… and John was smiling at me, asking how my day was.
Then it was all better.










Hey, at least nothing ignited… I’ve had to live with the embarrasment of setting chocolate chip cookies aflame in the oven, and then panicking and running out of the kitchen…. (Okay, so I was a rather young chef….) Your story was quite riveting, and I was so relieved that it ended on a happy note. :)
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You had me laughing. :D I won’t tell you how many burned meals I’ve served in my almost-two-tears of marriage, but I blame all of those on the electric oven… ;)
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And look at my typo… you would think my marriage has been a vale of tears. ;) I meant to say “almost-two-years” of course…
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You know,, you said “young brides” that really makes me laugh, because after 15 years of being married, I still have dinner flops. lol ;-)
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Reminds me of the time my husband turned off the gas in the house and when he turned it back on he forgot to relight the pilot on the stove. I prepared a 14lb turkey to bake while at church for 12 people (7 guests). We got home and…no gas…raw turkey!!! They tried to tell me it was ok but after trying to convince me they’d wait for it…the men went down and picked up KFC! Funny memories anyway!
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I am sorry your dinner was a flop. You have the best spirit about it in the end.
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Oh Ash, you crack me up! : )
Well, I happen to know you are an *excellent* cook and under normal circumstances, you make *the BEST* cornbread. It must be the oven’s fault, right?! LOL
And I can *so* picture John eating the cornbread like that…speaking from my own experience, I can think of more than a few times when I’ve made something and wasn’t sure it turned out ok, and John would say, “Tastes good! Just eat this part!”. He’s such a good guy! : )
I love you, Baby-girl!
Mama
P.s. I loved your comment about Dad and Zach not going to BB or ice skating while I do lesson plans. Remember those days?! ::sniff, sniff::
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Sweet story…and what a guy! I love that!
We all have our share of flops. I worked at a boarding school in the Dominican Republic and my boys were always bragging about my cooking (even when I made salad and there was an inch of garden mud in the bottom of the bowl). One of the other “housemoms” asked for my mac and cheese recipe. Later she asked why mine wasn’t pink like hers was. She had grated up the cheese…red wax and all. LOL
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Well … I’m proof that one doesn’t need to be a young bride in order to have cooking ‘flops’! I’ve been cooking with my mother since I was tiny and on my own since I was eight. I should be able to cook ‘right’ after fifteen year, huh? Um … no, not always! Just recently I had a ‘flop’ … making bread (with a recipe I have used soooooo many times before!), I doubled the wet ingredients and not the dry. The result was not even funny! (At least … not just then! It is kind of funny now!)Even more recently I was making crackers and they would not work … they cracked up before they were cooked, then they burned in, like, three minutes … the kitchen was hot and I was tired and my father finally came in, found me in tears over the cracker dough and rolling pin and told me that the cooked ones were good and the uncooked ones belonged in the trash. So … you’re not alone! I think we all have cooking ‘flops’ from time to time. By the way, I love the way your husband responded … how sweet. Good for him!
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Um … I’m “proof that one doesn’t need to be a young bride in order to have cooking ‘flops’” because I’ve not yet been a bride – young or otherwise – by the way! Sorry I left that bit out …! :->
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Ashleigh, I was going to link to this post in my blog, and then thought — maybe you don’t want that kind of public exposure?? … after what happened with your other blog. I think most of my readers are nice, sweet people (I haven’t gotten a rude comment in months!) BUT you never know who’s reading. :) Just thought I’d better check with you before linking, though, just in case. :)
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You gotta love it when your hubby figures out the very best thing to say.
Mark is good at that too – he’s easy to please in the dinner-department.
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Oh, no. I haven’t ruined a dinner yet. So in about a year and half…watch out Keith. Hehe! ;) However, I have ruined other dishes like bread. Maybe those count. LOL
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Oh, ouch. My stomach hurts from laughing. I must be practicing up for some married- dinner flops. My corn bread flopped last I made it too. ;)
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I once set our electric stove on fire while boiling a chicken. Ah, I have come a long way since then, but I still have the occasional flop. They are never funny at the time but make great stories later.
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It’s so great when husbands are so understanding. Since I’ve been pregnant (I’m 34 weeks now), I have messed up SO many things in the kitchen. I just recently had to put a sign on my cupboard door that says “GREASE THE PAN!!!” because I keep forgetting to grease pans when I make muffins and bread. My hubby (a former Marine, by the way), just kind of shrugs and says “Oh well. No big deal.” I get so frustrated with myself, so it’s nice to hear him say it’s no big thing.
BTW, I read this from a link of Tammy’s Recipes. I’ll be back to read more!
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My sister (above) let me know of your blog. It great! I loved reading this post…actually I’d love to have that pork chop recipe, if you wouldn’t mind. My husband is in the Corps as well (9 years and counting) and we’ve been married seven years. I made rock chocolate cookies last night and felt terrible (pregnancy emotions stink). Eric said he thought I’d meant to do them that way and that he loved them a “little crunchy”…mind you they were more than a “little crunchy.”
I’ll be back to read more.
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